Sometimes it is in little things such as how to deal with an unkind word in passing, or  when we have a case of the I wants and all we hear is no and maybe.

Well we got Tested and made it through . Thank God!!

As you know from my last post I was Gonna be a Granny, it was not ment to be at least not this time . we had quite a scare , I thought I was going to lose my daughter-in-law, the entire thing was scary . I could not go with her to the hospitol as I was ill and I had to take care of my daughter. but my son was with her he was beside  himself  but he held it together . I sat here at home and prayed.

When  Vicki came home I was here for her as well as my son Chris they where so hoping to be parents and I sat with them and we talked it out and prayed there are still some hurts that I can not fix there but I know that when it is time their family will start . I know it hurts and I also know that In Gods Time Viki and Cris will make  a Great  Mom and Dad .   and I will be a Granny.

I am Sad For the Loss of this one, but it just was not time for this little spirit to grace the earth.  mabey next time Lord willing.

I ‘m just Happy Vicki made it through and is healthy and still wants to have Children. she dose not feel defeeted and I think that is all I’m going to say about that.

Just remember God dose not give us anything we can not handle , He is always there for us.His love  never  fails !!

but then you blink, and they are all grown up. This I  Realized when  My oldest son got married in September of 2008 , and just a few weeks ago with a great big grin on his face in formed me that I am to be a Grand mother sometime in September of this year. Wow !! Where dose the time go.  dose that mean I’m getting old???? or just that time stands still for no one. My other two Children  are great my young son is in college, my daughter is starting kindergarten  in the fall, and all is well. The blessings of my Children are Great in my life and I thank God every day for them . I really do  believe that God gave me really great Kids . I have had my challenges with them . I know most all parents say they have great kids but I will not say mine can do no wrong .  half the time their halos hung of their horns . and we had our go abounds but all in all their good kids and I’m proud of them they have learned their lessons well and are still learning, as I still have to get on them some times and the little one well she  still has a way to go and has a lot of growing up to do. and with her brothers help and her sister-in-laws too I think she will have it made with a lot of love and guidance . before I know it she will be grown too.

Any way I Just wanted to say that all Family’s  Grow and Learn and no matter what they love or they should thats what family is about.

We  in my Family do not always see eye to eye but we love each other , we listen , and talk  out problems . there is not always a solution but a compromise or agreeing to disagree  may resolve issues. and we never leave the house angry with each other life is to precious and short to do that. we do not know what will happen when we walk out that door. so never a harsh word  said on leaving the house.

These are the things we do to make sure that we know that there is no doubt that we are loved at least by our family. we try to pass this along to our friends as well  so they know they are part of our family too, but to be our friend is to be part of our family in a way thats just how we are.

any way I got off topic   my family is growing .

I want with all my heart for it to grow happy and healthy.

He turned 20 this year and will be once again be starting a new part of his life.

He is going to embark on his own family. This is frightening to me but as a mother it is normal I guess.

My husband will be officiating the service. I love the young Lady he has chosen to spend the rest of his life with. Her name Is Victoria she is a sweet loving and truly a good person the have known each other sense the 8th grade and have been friends and in the last 2 years became a couple , and as an added bonus her parent and I are the best of friends too. and now we are going to be family witch is too cool in my book.

Here is a picture of the happy couple:

I do hope that their love is as lasting as my husbands  and mine  is as this year  we  celebrate  our  20th anniversary .   so here is to them may True Love Never Fail…

when you are laying down the law never do it with a raised voice .
stern and strong is good. yelling is Bad.
name calling is bad braking down self esteem is bad .
always let them know that you love them even though you are disappointed in their actions.
let them know that their actions were dumb or stupid while at the same time reassuring them
they are not dumb or stupid.
listening to what they have to say without interruption, unless they are being disrespectful . just say excuse me and interject there but try to stay in in a speaking voice. because when you start yelling their brains shut down and they stop listening. all of your consequences are put in to place with I love you and you know that for every action is an opposite and equal reaction. so these are our reactions to your actions and you have to learn that if you want positive reactions from us your actions and ans choices have to be good ones you know right from wrong we have taught you that . if you need help making a choice, please come to us and we can talk about it and we can help you. we can’t decide for you but we can point you in the right direction.
Stick to you guns with what ever you choose for consequences. but always put a whole bunch of I Love yous in there you will know where to put them .
I hope this helps you understand what I mean by positive reinforced discipline.

I have helped a couple of moms with this as well as teachers the teachers use I care in place of love.
I do hope this helps. not saying to go wishy washy on any thing by all means stand your ground. Just do it in a way to keep the line of communication open.

this is for Dads too. I used this in a moms Discussion group and they have found it works. I use this method with my Children. and I used it in the classroom when I was a teachers aid it worked really well .

I hope it helps you too.

all went well and they are home and on the mend, they are going through the trials of post-OP pain and learning new and interesting ways of doing things so it does not hurt.

well I applaud them for their endurance and they seem to still keep Smiling I know I don’t see their tears and they would never in a million years show it just how much they are really hurting, Well Hats off to you my Friends

Love always,

Trisha

Marry Christmas!

Well Thy took the Time to be our Friends and all and they didn’t have to. It is something they wanted to do..

To all my Friends Thank you So Very Much For being my Friends….

I do love all of you very much!!

So Remember Your Friends This Thanks Giving, Send them a Hug, it will make their day I promise you. And it will make you feel good too..

With Hugs and Lots of Love,

I remember when I found out I was carrying you under my heart, and when I herd your heartbeat for the first time. When you moved the first time how thrilled I was you my child living inside me, apart of my body but separate somehow.
As you grew and we changed together my love
For you grew too, and I couldn’t wait to see you and hold you in my arms.
When I gave Birth it was my Greatest achievement
There you where I called you by name,
(7-3-88 5:55PM 8lbs, 8oz 181/2 long)
Christopher Allen
Is what I said.
When I got to hold you I said welcome to the world and cried, and your Father was so proud.
We took you home three days later and for us life had officially started as a family of three.

As you grew, you dad went into the Army when you where 9 months old it was a tuff time but we made it. I took you on your first plane ride to Loton, OK to FT Sill for your Dad’s basic training graduation.
Your first words well,
Lets just say Grandfather AL and Irons don’t mix
He dropped a hot one on his foot while getting you ready for church and said the F. word repeatedly, in turn when we had that really quiet time in service when we pray and every one is waiting for God to speak through some one in the interpretation of tongues you dropped the F. bomb repeatedly and very loudly and Mommy was embarrassed…

You took your first steps when we got home, so one month later we went back to FT Sill where your Dad was doing his AIT so we could fake it and have you walk to him on the parade ground, we had to spend an extra week because you got an ear infection.
It was a good Time.

We moved to Tacoma, WA
Right after New Years in 1990
(I found out I was having Jason In Feb.)
You were so excited when Mommy told you you were going to have a baby brother or sister you were almost two when your brother started moving around real good in mommies tummy you would lay you head on my belly and hum little songs to him, and tell him stories that you hear from a 2yr old.

We had Your Brother a Month early
11-09-90 6lbs, 10oz, 21” long
Jason Alexander
Was born and four days later we brought him home to you. You wanted to hold him right away and play. I had to tell you no he is to little, but if you sit I will help you hold him.
Your eyes got so big.
So with your Daddy on one side and Mommy on the other, you held your baby Brother and I cried.
Two days latter you pulled him out of his bassinet and took him to Grand ma upside down like he was a toy but we had to remind you that he was a baby and not a toy.
At Two months Jason gets croup and cant breath your daddy has to watch you Mommy has to take Jason to the ER.
I missed you so much I was away from you for 2 weeks Jason was in the hospital and you were in on post day care daddy had to work I was so sorry about that.
When I got home I tried to make it up to you.
You were such a good little boy.
When you were just about ready to turn 3 about a month or so away you came down with an unknown virus that mimicked meningitis, you ran a 105 fever and wanted to sleep all the time I called your Daddy at work and he came home, we rushed you to the ER I stayed with you while you Dad watched Jason. We thought we were going to lose our little boy they took you for a lumbar puncture to make see if you had meningitis
Thank God it came back negative. The Dr called the virus the GI blues it had made a lot of soldiers sick and their families too.
But by the Grace Of God and good doctors your fever broke and you came home a week latter
I did not get to stay with you the whole time I had to take care of Jason but I was with you every day.
You bounced back pretty quick from that.
Daddy got orders for Germany; we went to California to visit Family before he had to go.
1992
Your Daddy came home.
We moved
Back to California And settled in Madera
And spent the remaining time we had with Grandma Dea before She passed away.
We stayed at grandfather Al’s for a while after, where you managed to launch your brother 10feet across a room from a rocking chair breaking his collar bone on landing. You did not mean to. That’s why Mom always says, “ Horse play is for Horses not you.”
My dad your Grandfather on Holiday,
And we could not meet the house payment on his house so we were homeless for about 3weeks.
But then we found an apartment on K Street.
I remember you at 41/2 trying to light a candle and setting the living room curten on fire, boy were you in trouble.
But I loved you.
We put it out and got new cur tens had to pay to have the extinguisher charged but other than that no big as well as talk to you about fire safety
And not to play with matches.
You started School while we lived there,
I used to ride the bus with you to school every day. Only because I knew the bus driver.
You and your brother would go on my paper rout with me and help me pitch papers you guys thought it was fun I think it was because I got you treats on the way home and Ice cream on the way. But that’s ok it was because I loved you.
We Moved to Madera Ave because the neighbor upstairs flooded our apartment. But that was ok to because it was a better place two-story townhouse with a pool, you loved it and that’s where you learned how to swim really well.
You and your Brother both.
Then we had the fire I thought all was lost and we had to move again but it was not our fault so by the Grace of God they gave us another townhouse and we lived there for about 31/2 years. I got hurt at work, after I could get around better, Dad and I were offered a job managing a mini storage we worked there for about 6months and got laid off and Daddy went back into the Army April 2000
We moved in with Grandma & Grandpa Morgan
We stayed there while your dad was in Basic you went to your Grandfathers while I went to your dads Graduation.
While your Daddy was in AIT Your Grandpa Morgan pulled his stunt and our journey across country started when we loaded you and Jason up in the car with Grandfather Al and drove strait through to South Carolina we left Madera, CA at 11:00 am on the 28th of June and we got to Ft Jackson, SC at 2:30am 30th of June.
We spent the night there in SC.
Then we drove up to NC
To stay at uncle David’s house
We stayed there for the month of July.
Your dad came to visit us on the weekends, while we were there. And we got Dakota our Doxen.
You learned how to eat Vietnamese spices, and what Texas Pete was.
The last 2 days of our stay we went to see the battle ship USS North Carolina you had a
Blast and we walked along Myrtle Beach.
We dropped your Dad off on post hugged and kissed him goodbye, and started our journey home it took us 3 days
Just because we were bringing home Dakota and we went to The Grand Canyon and you loved that too.

Your dad came home on leave in November for about
2 weeks and was then stationed in Korea for a year.
About months after your Daddy went To Korea
We moved into our own apartment on
Cleveland Ave.
We were all doing very well,
Your Daddy came home on mid tour leave in June and stayed a month, you and Your Brother were baptized while your dad was home. We went to the lake and on a couple of other pick nicks. In fact we went to Millerton Lake the last weekend he was home and he got so sunburned on his feet we did not know how he was going to wear his boots when he got back. But he called and said all was well.
Life went back to semi normal for us. We had your 13th and got a call from you Daddy wishing him happy birthday too as where he was it was already his birthday as time goes Korea is
Day ahead.
September 11, 2001
The alarm went of as always I got up made coffee and turned on the news what I saw made me hit the floor, a plane hit the world trade center. My first thought its not real. Then I heard them say there was another plane crashing into the other tower
I got you out of bed and ready for school.
The first tower fell and the second soon to follow.
The principal of your school called me and asked me to come in to school to help out. So we went to school where there was no learning process that day. Only the news on the TV was heard in the classroom.
We heard the fighter planes fly over to keep the no fly order in affect, as there was no air traffic aloud in the US the air ports had been shut down
I prayed that neither one of you my sons,
Would become ill because if I had to take you to the doctor they would let me on post at Lemoore Naval Air Station, but would not let me back off as they were in complete lockdown. Being a military family made us targets and seeing us drive on to a base as far as they were concerned was putting us at risk so they thought it would be safer if we stayed.
So we did not go on post for about a week. Thankfully you stayed healthy and we had gone grocery shopping earlier that week.
I was so worried about your dad though
I knew he was not going anywhere he was already forwardly deployed in Korea.
I was worried about North Korea.
He called about 2days after I felt so much better, knowing he was safe.
Thing started to quiet down for us and get back to some thing like organized kayos, but we did ok.
In November your Daddy came home for transition leave going to his next duty station
Ft Bliss Texas,
He stayed 2 weeks I went back with him to check in
And to request that he be able to come home for Thanks Giving
Which he did and took the car back to Texas.
While he was there we were getting ready for a Christmas program and getting ready to move to Texas
When he got here you my love surprised us and got a hernia.
So on my birthday 12-18-2001
You had surgery
At Children’s Hospital
You did fine it was out patient surgery you were groggy when we brought you home to grandma’s house we were staying there as our house hold goods were in route to Texas and we were going to leave 3 days after your surgery.
You took a nap, woke up puked and asked what’s for dinner I guess you were feeling better.
Any way,
When we left California we loaded you, your brother, and Dakota the dog into Grandfather Al’s motor home so you could lay down on the trip you were so lucky movies and video games
All the way to Texas.
When we arrived the front door had blown open and there was a ¼ of an inch of sand on the floor of our living room and we had no heat it was 3 days before Christmas and we had no furniture so we made a few calls and one your Daddy’s Sergeants lent us a love seat, table, and some space heaters. As well as blankets. And a Christmas tree.
We got our Big Screen TV for Christmas from your Dad.
And the same Sergeant that lent us the furniture had us over for Christmas dinner complete with gifts.
There are still Good people in this world…
In February 2002 you learned that you think before you speak..
You opened your mouth and said something to a young man about his mama I know he provoked you, but you still got your nose broke and had to be put on home hospital for post concussion syndrome. Spent the school year at home with me and had your teacher come to the house. It was a real bummer for you I Know.
But we got through it.
And you started regular school in the fall of the next school year.
You did very well you and your brother would go to the youth center every day after school and play pool with your friends, you liked to do the yard work and spend time with our neighbors,
Especially Bill and Tabitha and their Children.
Vicki, Ali, and Carl
Vicki being your Favorite.
Anyway in March of 2003
Your Dad no matter how hard he tried could not shave the 45 second deficit off of his PT run because of a Medical condition that they were trying to find out what was happening but decided a honorable discharge was a better course of action.
Shortly after we moved Back to California, as it is our home of record.
I found out I was Pregnant with Your Little Sister.
We lived with Grandma and Grandpa Morgan.
It took a little while for Daddy to Find a job but he finally found one at Comp USA in Fresno as an A+ certified tech.
One weekend we went to San Fran Sisco
I was really prego with your sister we had a blast but when it came time to take pictures it looked like you were ticked off and did not want to have your picture taken.
You said it was because the sun was in your face.
But when you saw the pic.s you felt really bad you made up for it latter though.
Your little Sister was born
December 7th 2003 7lbs, 14oz, 19” long
Cerissa Lynne-Noel
You Finally got the little Sister you always wanted and she is the apple of your eye
The first time you Held her you cried, you were in awe of her.
We took her on a lot of walks to the park and you and her along with Jason would feed the ducks and we would have pick nicks and take pictures.
We moved to Merced 3months after Cerissa’s 1st birthday.

March 2004-2007
We moved in a big rider truck You, your Dad, and Jason haled our stuff up stairs to our new apartment, and got most thing set up so I did not have much to do when we brought Cerissa home to our new place.
I Loved you for it.
We got you set up in school and you did very well
You even got a girlfriend.
Things went well for a while you went to your first dance,
I remember we went to San Fran Sisco just to get her a gift for Valentine’s Day and we took Cerissa for her first trip to the ocean.
She road the Carousel and cried when the ride was over. We bought her a gorilla puppet to make it all better.
Then you went to prom thing still seemed well.
But by your 18th birthday July 3rd 2006 thing fell apart for you and you did not know why.
I felt so bad, and helpless to see you heart broken
The day Joy left.
But you over came it. We talked and talked and got you through.
You went to the recruiter’s office then and joined the Navy I was so proud.
From that point on you were known as DEP Recruit Morgan.
Going through the program you grew strong and wise, and became a man you made almost strait A’s your senior year of High School when you Graduated I was so Proud .
And you studied hard and got your Tech. class FCC license got your Call sign: KI6JIE
I was so proud.
Now the time is here and you are getting ready to leave home for the first time to begin your Life.
And I have to let you go and live it on your own
You turned 19 years old today,
You are a man grown.
But you will al ways be my Baby.
I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!
Christopher Allen Morgan

Happy Birthday
July 3rd 2007
I am very Proud of you!!

I remember Bringing Christopher home from the hospital after he was born almost 19 years ago. And now he is grown he graduated High School on the 6Th of June this year and one month exactly from that day he ships for Navy boot camp. He Was the First of my children to enter my life, and the First one to leave the nest. It is not easy for me to let go and let him live his life. He is still my Baby! and no matter how old he gets or how far he goes he always has a home to come home to and a mother who loves him. he said to me mom “I will always be your baby boy your number one son you can count on me I love you mom..” I cry-ed my eyes out… I do have two other children I know and I hold them close to me. my young son is going to be 17 this year so sooner than I think will have another leaving the nest. but no worries about my little girl for awhile she is only 31/2 I have time. that will fly by if I do not savor every moment of it.

So please don’t take the time that you have with your Children for Granted it flies by so fast you don’t notice it until you have missed it…

I personally did not have to learn this lesson but other people in my Family have.

But that’s life I guess.

Here is a little about me, I’m a stay at home mom with 3 children whom I love very much. The oldest Christopher is Graduating this year and leaving the nest for Navy Boot camp & turns 19 in July.

My young Son Jason turns 17 in November.

And my angel Cerissa turns 4 in December

my life is busy and full of challenges right now but it all good on the mommy side

I am also coming up on my 19Th wedding anniversary and I Love my hubby !!!

he at present is looking for work as he got laid off from his job this month.

So even though life has its set backs its all good because we are living it I have Faith that he will find some thing. I have faith my son Chris will be safe away from home.

Yes I am a God fearing woman. and every day he gives me and mine is a blessing.

life is like a bowl of cherries look out for the pits

or life is a Rose garden but the thorns are toxic..

I guess what I’m trying to say is no matter what life throws at you do your best and live it. there will be people out here to listen all you have to do is look.